The Lunar Woman, Solar
Man, and Relationships
Presented at the "4th International Conference on
Indian Knowledge Systems - Ayurveda and Yoga – Where Science Meets
Consciousness" in Allahabad (during the Maha Kumbh Mela, February 16, 2013)
Woman is the like the moon. She
waxes and wanes. Man is like
the sun--constant, stationary, shining from dawn to dusk and dusk to dawn.
Everything grows because of the moon.
Everything ripens because of the sun.
And everything is conceived because of the combination of those two
polarities of male and female, sun and moon.
That is where the problem begins as well!
Not understanding the basic nature of man and woman causes strife,
pain and tremendous hardship.
Women are not born to suffer, but they do.
Women are not born to be unhappy, but many
Women give birth to doctors, psychologists,
Men want women, men leave women, and men beat women.
Men love women, men hate women, and men divorce women.
On this most beautiful planet there is nothing but misunderstanding
in the roles of the Lunar Woman, Solar Man, and their Relationships.
The Lunar Woman
long recognized how the lunar cycles interact with Mother Earth—in the ocean
tides, plant and hair growth, animal rhythms and even a woman’s hormonal
cycle. Lunar energies also
influence our emotional equilibrium.
The energy of the moon interacts with the micro- and macro-cosmos,
our bodies and the universe, in other words, ‘as above, so below.’
points are physical areas located on the human body, sensitive to lunar
energies. A male has one moon
point at the chin. Hair grows
on his moon point, absorbs solar energy and neutralizes the lunar effect.
By nature, a male is primarily influenced by the solar energy.
woman has 11 moon points which affect her emotional state.
She moves in sequence from one moon point to another every 2 ½ days.
In the 28 days of the menstrual cycle, a woman’s moon can be found in one of
the eleven different areas of the body, called the eleven limbs of the
The moon center sequence begins in the womb.
In fact, the moon center sequence begins just after conception.
This is the subtlest cycle that a woman can experience.
It contains the answers to many patterns that have mystified women
(and the men in their lives).
Women may be labeled as emotional or unpredictable, always changing their
minds, delivering the unexpected from day-to-day.
In reality, the woman has simply moved to a different moon center.
Every 2 ½ days when the woman cycles to a different moon center she
sees the world through the quality of that moon center.
As her moon center changes her mood changes.
If she is aware of her moon center sequence she can feel that
Here is a list of the woman’s 11 moon points and the different qualities
associated with them:
the arc line—steadiness, stability, divine clarity, reality.
unpredictability, emotional instability.
verbal, interactive, communicative.
intelligence, concern with values and ethics.
Back of the Neck:
divine compassion, giving (can be to the point of foolishness).
Belly Button/Corresponding area on the Back:
insecure, exposed, vulnerable.
confirmative, verifying, affirming.
illusionary, imaginative, visionary.
external, talkative in social settings.
depth, sharing in personal or cultural cycle.
A woman’s moon center sequence may not follow the exact order as the list
above. For example, it may move
from the Ear Lobes to the Hairline instead of from the Ear Lobes to the Back
of the Neck.
A woman’s moon center sequence is uniquely her own.
It does not depend on the actual phase of the moon or of her
Once a woman has determined her personal moon center sequence she can follow
it throughout her life. It will
not change to match those of the other women in her life.
It may change, however, if she is subjected to trauma.
It may also change in intensity after menopause, i.e., the
fluctuations in emotions from moon to moon may be subtler than before.
Using kinesiology (muscle testing) or a pendulum are two ways to
determine a woman’s moon center sequence.
The Solar Man
The male moon center on the chin has hair on it, therefore, it is steady.
must be able to look to the man for inspiration and stability.
Otherwise, he has nothing to offer.
Then it becomes a matter of existence and not of relationship.
The side of the moon which shines looks towards the sun.
The man must be stable as a magnet, which attracts to itself but
itself does not move, while she, being the changeable moon is never
stationary and therefore never secure.
The man is to be a source of strength and stability and security.
His duty is to make her secure both materially and spiritually.
The woman must know that her male will provide for her.
It takes a woman 14 days to wax and 14 days to wane.
But a man does it with 14 breaths waxing and waning.
This means that the man goes through the process in 2 minutes, the
woman in 28 days! The outer,
more noticeable difference is that the woman spends more time in each moon
center to experience the transition both in her mind, mood and actions.
The male moves quicker, sensing less transition and manifesting a
more sun-like nature.
Yogi Bhajan, the Mahan Tantric and the Master of Kundalini Yoga said it
sun and moon exist as polarities, positive and negative.
The faculty of the sun is continuous and
constant; the nature of the moon is expansive and contractive.
So whereas a woman’s underlying etheric tendency is towards
fluctuation and man’s is towards stability, on a practical earthly level
their behaviors are the reverse.”
Speaking to men he said, “Understand
that she is here to sprout and receive, conceive and she is very insecure.
The only thing which makes her secure is when you tell her she is
infinite and that her spiritual spirit is what can give her the experience
Woman has an infinite ego. No
man can match it. If you are
born of a woman, how can you match a woman?
You are always weak before a woman.
When you relate to the limited self of a woman she becomes very
crazy. Always tell her that she
is great, unlimited, divine and the giver of everything.
All you have to do to deal with a woman is to inspire her
Woman doesn’t need a man. She
is sixteen times more intelligent, sensitive and patient.
She can work and protect herself from the enemy sixteen times more
than a man. By just standing
and looking straight into the eyes of a person a woman should be in a
position to hypnotically make the other person faint.
It is a God given gift which most women have not developed.
This is what the scriptures say ... within the sight of the female
when any man, person, animal, bird or one which creeps comes to be in her
sight she can still it and make it faint until enough distance is gained
that she can be out of danger.
That quality is not in a man.
Primal Nature of the Male and Female
A female swings between two polarities—the woman/feminine and the
mother/nurturer. As ‘woman’ she
is powerful and can push through all difficulties.
She can even manifest the archetype of the Warrior Woman who is
fearless, defending courageously.
This is the more active or masculine aspect of the polarity of the
As ‘mother’ she nurtures with endless compassion, even to the extremes of
sustaining herself through ongoing stresses and abuses without weakness.
Her cells have the ultimate yearning to create and nurture every seed
that she encounters; every event, encounter or process.
She innately longs to nurture it.
This is the more passive or feminine aspect of the female.
Even if a female is without children she holds this mother aspect
The conscious female integrates these two aspects.
This is the most basic polarity within the female.
A male is also balancing two polarities-- the masculine/sovereign warrior
and father/protective shelterer.
As the ‘sovereign warrior’ he needs his own domain and definition.
This is the independent aspect that longs to grab his things and hit
the road. He seeks adventure,
exploration and action, he loves teams, packs and membership even as he
strikes out on its own for adventure.
This is also called the ‘hunter’ and the ‘seeder’ aspect of the male.
This is the ‘seeder’ with no commitments.
This is the more rough male energy.
As ‘father’ the male longs for a protective shelter with a comfy home where
he’s loved and life is very cozy.
Pillow talk and eye contact nurture this comfortable energy.
He dreams of the luxury of warm meals and sweet communication.
This reflects the more feminine passive energy within the male
It is not always easy for men to speak about these two polarities within
Bringing Ease into Our Relationships
Six Tracks or One Track
The female primal nature gives her a very ebb and flowing attitude.
Woman’s challenge is that, in addition, her mind has six tracks!
She was given this gift so that she would be able to serve, nurture
and care for her children, husband and home.
This ability to work on six tracks at once can backfire—she may not
be able to turn off her nurturing nature.
Woman can handle many things at once.
She can talk on the phone, chop vegetables, feed the baby, oversee
another child doing chores while thinking about tasks she’ll need to
complete tomorrow while smiling throughout.
But, all of this activity can heavily tax her nervous system.
Eventually it could even force her to close down her sensitivity.
A male has one track. He enjoys
remaining on that one track, too!
It is usually not difficult for him to concentrate on one thing at a
time. The ‘one track mind’ has
its pros and cons. On the pro
side he can tune out everything and concentrate on the task at hand.
On the con side it can be difficult for him to change gears quickly
to interact in an ever faster-changing world.
So, in relationship the woman must offer the male one thing at a time to
think about; one task at a time upon which to concentrate.
Ideas or Problems
Because a woman can think on many tracks she is more capable of handling
more ideas and thoughts at once.
She can entertain both fantasies and serious ideas at the same time.
The male tends to select one thought and then likes to leap into
action to solve the problem—right away!
For example, a woman who is thinking about re-arranging the furniture at
home might simply be sorting her priorities verbally.
But, if she isn’t clear she might come home to a totally different
floor plan! That is because
while listening to her he has already calculated when he would find the time
to re-arrange the furniture, identified who he would enlist to help him move
the heavy chest of drawers, thought of the hand-cart needed at his cousin’s
house to get it all done, etc.
The female is suggesting ideas.
The male perceives the idea as
a problem to be solved—and he’s going to solve it!
To avoid future miscommunication and arguments the female needs to clearly
define and frame the conversation, i.e., 1) it is necessary and essential to
re-arrange the furniture, 2) we are just reviewing to see if we need to
re-arrange the furniture, i.e., there’s just a slight possibility of action
or 3) we are discussing re-arranging the furniture as an enjoyable fantasy
... not for action!
Purkha and Prakirti
The relationship is not between a male and a female.
It is between Purkha and
A man who does not see
Prakirti (goddess) in a woman will never find the strength to see the
infinity of God. And a female
who does not find the nucleus of God in a man will never have the ecstasy of
In the heavens the Sun is stationary.
The moon, on the other hand, waxes and wanes.
The moon reflects the sun.
When the earth comes between them it creates an eclipse.
It is as if the moon and earth eat each other.
The eclipse is similar to how two people can eat each other in
marriage, in love, in relationship.
In so doing they block or eclipse the relationship, their prosperity,
their spirituality and their happiness.
They become two polarities with their egos in the center.
This robs them of what they can have with each other.
relationship is yours and no one else’s.
Love the polarities and the differences.
Accept with tolerance because it is out of love and compassion that
your soul has united the two of you.
In relationship you want to ‘relay’ yourself and share with that
person in such a way that it uplifts and draws out the positive virtues of
that person. That uplift is
your extended personality co-created with the other in mutual relationship.
a woman places her foot on this Earth, God himself says, ‘thank you.’
Why? It is because a
woman is the walking identity of God’s creativity.
In yogic tradition woman is called the
Adi Shakti the primal, original
creative energy or force (‘adi’ =
primal; ‘shakti’ = female
energy). Each woman carries the
Adi Shakti power within her.
Woman can turn her blood into milk.
Man cannot. That milk
nourishes man and then turns into his very own blood.
Man has a genetic and spiritual obligation to bow in reverence to the
character, the facets and the characteristics that woman has given him.
Woman is the mother of all mothers, the
Bhagwati Ashutapujaa--the woman
with eight arms sitting on the back of a Bengal Tiger.
Those are the faculties of woman.
tragedy on this planet is that those born of a woman do not have reverence
for woman. There shall be no
peace until this is achieved.
we continue to understand the basic nature of man and woman.
May we honor
the feminine ebb and flow of the moon and the masculine sustenance of the
May strife, pain and suffering in relationship end.
May all of
all of our relationships be bountiful, blissful and beautiful.